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After heartache & confusion comes peace & self discovery w/ Briana Bermudez
Ever wondered what it’s like to co-parent with an ex while navigating the twists and turns of past relationships and new dynamics? Join us as we welcome the incredibly authentic and hilarious Brianna, a TikTok star who doesn’t hold back. From a chance meeting outside a club that sparked an 11-year saga, to juggling three kids and dealing with the complexities of her baby daddy’s current girlfriend, Sierra, Brianna shares it all. Brace yourself for some wild WTH moments and heartfelt insights into the rollercoaster of co-parenting and maintaining a family unit against the odds.
Have you ever considered the intricacies of a poly relationship, only to discover it’s more complicated than expected? Our host opens up about a relationship triangle involving her, her baby daddy, and his other partner. Despite past physical altercations and the baby daddy’s narcissistic antics, there’s a surprising bond formed between the women. The discussion sheds light on the challenges of setting boundaries, the importance of self-respect, and the sometimes contentious road to moving forward. The conversation is a testament to the strength required to navigate such tangled relationships while prioritizing personal growth and children’s well-being.
On a more spiritual note, the episode wraps up with a deep dive into personal transformation and faith. We discuss the power of reclaiming one’s life, setting boundaries, and the unique journey everyone takes toward spiritual growth. With compelling personal anecdotes, we emphasize that no one needs to be perfect to seek solace in faith. Whether you’re at your lowest or celebrating your best days, the message is clear: faith is accessible to everyone, and the journey itself is what truly matters. This episode is packed with real-life stories, heartfelt moments, and wisdom on setting a positive example for our children. Tune in and be inspired by the bravery of our guests as they share their paths to empowerment.
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She bowed, she reeled and she's definitely ready. Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of the she Bowed Crew Podcast. It's your girl, smiley B and Eva G, and we are back with another bow episode and today we have another guest. Y'all we told y'all we were going to keep coming back with guests after guests, and so we're excited to introduce Miss Brianna. Miss Brianna, you want to go ahead and introduce yourself, give a little intro to the listeners intro to the listeners.
Speaker 3:Okay, hi, everybody.
Speaker 1:My name is brianna um you may know me from tiktok for being in my baby daddy sideline and um, yeah, not the baby daddy, sideline you so funny.
Speaker 1:So, yes, guys, um, as brianna said, I did come across her profile on tiktok and baby girl keeps me laughing like hilarious, like her personality is just so raw, authentic and funny at the same time. It's insane. So I reached out and wanted to, um, definitely get to know you, chat with you and have you on to the podcast. Um, so, in the beginning, like we always say, we always do a WTH moment, so did you have a WTH moment you'd like to share with the listeners?
Speaker 3:Yeah. So basically the moment I'm going to be sharing with y'all is what it's like co-parenting with my baby daddy. So my baby daddy called me up and he gets the kids on Mondays and he's like, hey, if I don't get the kids this Monday, can I pay you $500 to get the kids. I was like, okay, well, I ain't never been paid to babysit my own kids before, but I'll bite and it gets better. So then he's like, oh, but then I remember I owe back child support, so I'm not gonna give you the 500, I'm gonna just pay it to child support.
Speaker 1:What the hell, that's crazy. So you're not gonna give me the money you offered to give me the money then you're gonna give it to child support. So you're really looking out for yourself, because back child support gonna get you right right me right, oh wow, see that, how do you?
Speaker 2:because my how do you handle stuff like that?
Speaker 3:like do you get to hollering and cussing him out, like nope, see, the thing about it is, I've always had my kids full time and I don't look at my baby daddy as a 50 50 parent, because he never held 50 percent of the weight. So I'll be prepared to watch my kids full time and if he does get the kids on monday, then great, but if he don't, mama goddamn.
Speaker 1:The routine is gonna go on just like normal, okay period, kind of give us some background on your, your bd and how y'all met and all of that.
Speaker 3:All right. So how I met my baby daddy? Me and my baby daddy have been dealing with each other for 11 years. Don't pick up men from the club. This is how it's going to end up. Don't recommend so.
Speaker 3:I met my baby daddy outside of a club and once we started talking, we just kind of never stopped. I actually did go to prison for two years. When I came home from prison is when we had kids. While I was in prison, he met the woman that he's with now, sierra. So ever since I came home from prison that's been about seven years ago it's been back and forth between me, sierra, me, sierra, me, sierra.
Speaker 3:As soon as I came home from prison, I got pregnant with my first son, which is now five. At that time he was with Sierra, but I didn't know. So he broke up with Sierra. He came home. We started raising our son. We broke up again. He went back to Sierra. He came back. I got pregnant with my daughter. We broke up again. He went back. This last time that he went back we've been broken up pretty consistently, other than our Monday visits If y'all haven't seen that video on my page yet, monday visits are my baby daddy coming to pick up the kids and us being just, you know, a little extra friendly on the monday visits, and that's how I conceived my third child, which is jackaroo.
Speaker 3:Um, yeah, so where I'm at now, my baby daddy, we, we just co-parent. We don't talk at all. Um, I mean, we talk, like in regards to the kids, but we don't have any more monday sneak a link. We might plan a visit here and then, um, but yeah, I try to just let him live his best life this year oh yeah, that's something that's a bit much.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a. How old are you? 28? Yeah, 28, and that's the. That was another reason why I wanted to reach out, because I know that on your videos you got a lot of people under there like going in. They're giving their opinions, they're shocked by just the whole story. But I was listening. I always like to look at the bigger picture and I was like listen to your videos and just kind of how you would talk and I'm like this young lady they're like thinking she's like very naive and, you know, delusional, but you are. You know you seem to be really wise and like kind of really understand the overall picture. But it just seems like you still was fighting for maybe something that you know you wanted for your kids, which was like maybe, like you know, a mom and dad in the same household, like a family.
Speaker 3:I think in the beginning, like when my baby daddy first went to Sierra after my two kids and he was with Sierra Definitely that's where the whole poly relationship came in. I don't know if y'all seen that video where I went and asked my baby daddy's girlfriend she wanted to be in a poly relationship and we dragged that for like six, seven months where he's telling me like, oh, we're gonna be in a poly, I'm gonna get her going to leave her, we're going to figure it out. And I was believing that. So when we were sneaking around, I'm like, okay, well, this is only temporary, because eventually we're all going to live in one big house.
Speaker 3:Um, I think that the moment for me when I realized that wasn't true was when my baby daddy came and picked me up from the hospital with our third child. He had Sierra in the car and in that moment like the dynamic just felt like, okay, this is your girlfriend, I'm your baby mama and I'm probably just overplaying my role and being a little delusional here. And I think it changed from there. And when I put the story out on TikTok, I think what TikTok doesn't grasp. When I put that story out on TikTok, I'm telling y'all about something that I already went through. This is not what I'm going through. I'm telling y'all about what I already went through with my baby daddy.
Speaker 1:Where about what I already went through with my baby daddy. Where I'm standing at today is not what y'all are seeing being told today that's stuff I already went through. Yeah, no, that's super important Cause, like you said, you know I've seen that video and it was just a short clip. It really didn't have any context to it. Like nobody, it wasn't like you guys were having a conversation there or whatever. Like it was just like with your title over it. Like my baby daddy picked me up from the hospital with his girlfriend in the car, so like how was that ride? Like were y'all talking? It was that awkward.
Speaker 3:How was that ride? How was that ride? Okay, so when I first got in the car, my first thing I looked at her. I said girl, why are you here? And she was like, oh, I'm here Cause I can be. I was like don't you got kids to take care of? Like you left your kids to come deal with me and my baby daddy and our kids. Like do you just want to be a part of what?
Speaker 3:we got going on so bad, right, um, and like I said, up until this point, when I'm having this conversation from her, I'm coming from a point of me and my baby daddy are together. We have a secret relationship and you just don't know what's going on, um, and so I'm, like you know, telling her all this stuff. I told her she was our driver. I was like you, you came down here to be a driver and this is really our relationship and we're just trying to fit you in it, like you, his business partner, um, but the car ride was an hour long and at the end of the hour, she ended up telling me, like what my baby daddy was telling her.
Speaker 3:And when I spoke to her, like it just I felt sorry for her. I'm like you know what this really is, not your beef, it's really not your problem, and I'm really beefing with the wrong person. Like I allowed this man to tell me A, b and C and I believed it, and it really has nothing to do with you because he's telling you A, b and c so right and I think that that's important is to have those conversations, because it's it's typically like that.
Speaker 1:It's like they want to keep y'all at odds, so that the man always wants to keep the women at odds, so that they don't tell each other or get the scoop like or not, keep at odds, sometimes just keep away like.
Speaker 2:Has he not had? Was that like the first conversation you and her had?
Speaker 3:no, it's not the first conversation me and her had. No, it's not the first conversation me and her had. I don't pick my baby daddy up from her house. I walk in her house, pack my baby daddy's stuff and put it in my car. Sierra knows who I am. We are on first name basis. She knows my voice. She knows who I am, she knows the situation. She knows that my baby daddy is always going to be accessible to me, whether it be a relationship, whether it be us just having sex, whether it be us getting back together like that ball is in my court. When it comes to my baby daddy, I'm choosing to walk away because I don't want to be in the love triangle, no more. At no point has my baby daddy ever said, okay, I'm just not gonna talk to my baby mommy anymore, like that's not the case. I am choosing to put a no contact in place. I choose to put those boundaries in place. I chose to choose better for myself.
Speaker 1:I chose to choose me instead of waiting on this man waiting for my turn, basically because he's going to go back and forth. He's going to go back and forth. We're just waiting on the turn. Yeah, and that's so true. And that's why it is important to realize that and realize your worth, because you do, you do as women. I think that we forget sometimes that we do have the power, like we do have the control over situations, and it always seems like we don't, because we always forgive and go back, and so it looks like oh, they're the ones like dangling us. You know, on a, on a string, they're dangling us. But really we're dangling ourselves until we get tired of it and once we stop getting, once we get tired and fed up with with the bs, we, we're the ones that can be like no, we're not doing this, no more. I, if I, choose not to be a part of the circus, it's not going to, you're not going to have a full cast.
Speaker 2:Like I don't want to be a part.
Speaker 1:You can't do it anymore. You know what I'm saying and I think that that's what's so important and I feel like when people see stories like yours and of course it's oh kiki to some people, or it's just a, you know, a funny viral moment for people to look at but instead of like talking down on you or judging you, I feel like other women should be, you know, championing you and uplifting you Like baby girl, like you know you got this, like you know what I'm saying Like bigging you up to leave situations, instead of like just all the comments. And it be so crazy, because I'll be watching your response to these comments and I'm like she does not really be giving these, these comments, the energy like that they be giving her, and it's like they still they. It's like they want to get you out of your character so bad.
Speaker 2:And I'm like, and that is just so wild to me because but okay, I'm not gonna lie the whole driving together an hour from the hospital. That's wild. But besides that, I mean just about everybody I know has been, you know, going through some little baby daddy, baby mama drama, like it's not unheard of. I know we all got a couple friends that's been through that too. So you would think that you would get a little bit of sympathy from some people instead of them just dragging it like that.
Speaker 1:Yes, for sure. Have you guys ever had any type of physical altercation, you and her? Because I don't know-.
Speaker 3:No, she's scary. She don't want to fight Girl. I done ran that girl's car off the road. I done pulled up to her house. I done chin, checked her. She don't want to fight. She don't want to fight. She, she don't want to fight.
Speaker 3:But the thing like she, she's not even a confrontational person. If I was to send her, you know, a text message or the one time I aired her phone number out on live and people were calling her, she's not a confrontational person and that's why, like y'all always hear me say I call her sister wife because I don't got no beef with her. Just because my baby daddy choose to go back and forth between me and you, girl, you're not the problem, it could be another girl, it's not you. She's a great person. She's great with my kids. I've had heart-to-heart conversations with her. I don't cried on her chest before like she's not the problem, it's my baby daddy. And I think a lot of women want to face the energy towards the other woman and it's not the other women. Why are we mad at the other women?
Speaker 1:right, no, so true. And I know you say y'all discussed a poly relationship. So why did that happen, like what you said?
Speaker 3:he was down for it.
Speaker 1:You were down for it, so was she not down for it?
Speaker 3:or like she didn't want to be in a poly relationship. She felt like she was enough man for enough woman for my baby daddy to handle on her on her own. And, um, yeah, she, just she felt like, you know, the poly relationship was not a dynamic that she wanted to be in at all. She always feels like she's in competition with me and a lot of her insecurities come out when it comes to me. So it's not. For me it was like okay, you're a vegetable, I'm a fruit. He loves us in different ways. I wouldn't care if we lived in the same household. Girl, let's bust your bills down. But for her it's like no, I can't, I can't do that. Like it's just too insecure. Why do you still?
Speaker 3:want to be with her. Why do you love her?
Speaker 1:like things like that right and it's probably a pride thing because you and him have been dealing with each other for so long and then y'all have these three kids during the time of their relationship on and off, you know. So she was dealing with him all of these years on and off and you have all these kids, man. So it's probably like she feels as though like if I'm gonna do a poly relationship, it ain't gonna be with this woman that you clearly won't leave alone, that you still love, that you keep having kids. Because do they have kids together?
Speaker 3:they don't. She had an abortion um the same time that I was pregnant with my son. Her son would have been her boy or girl would have been the first, his first baby, and she not got the abortion oh wow.
Speaker 1:And how old is she? She's 25, I think. 25 or 26, yeah, so she's still trying to figure out her.
Speaker 2:She has a real bad.
Speaker 1:No, for real, like that's yeah, that's a different type of love.
Speaker 3:That's the relationship, the relationship that she has with my baby daddy. That's her first love, like that's her first relationship. So all that narcissistic stuff that he's doing with me, she's eating it up. She's like, oh, this man cares about me, this man really loves me.
Speaker 3:I'm like, okay, girl so then you guys have been going back and forth and doing the on and get off again thing, like she's been in this story for five years as well seven, seven, seven seven she was 20 21 when she met him she got my baby daddy's name tattooed on her body like three or four times and he has her name zero times, krisham, sorry we went we went and got matching tattoos he got mines, I got his while they were living together oh wow, and she knows that she knows that and she never confronts you or nothing she never gets mad at you about
Speaker 1:anything. So it sounds like you guys are in a poly relationship, but she's just denying it.
Speaker 2:It's like she has it she's denying it.
Speaker 1:You know what I'm saying. It's like if I was to call.
Speaker 3:I can call my daddy right now and I can tell him hey, can you pull up, can you meet me at your grandma house? Can I pull up to your house and meet me at the spot?
Speaker 1:I'm not gonna get a no it's not gonna be no, and she knows that and she decides to stay. So it's like you're accepting that, you're giving, you're allowing that. Essentially, like you said before, you know I I'm the one who went no contact and I'm the one who's saying no. So clearly, her staying in the situation, she doesn't have any kids with him, there's no ties. It's like she, at this point is, is just accepting it yeah, she's accepting it yeah wow.
Speaker 1:So currently you guys are on no contact, you and you and baby daddy on no contact.
Speaker 3:Um, yes, and no, like we're not, we're not on no funny shit right now. Um so, like you know, I'm not playing. No sneak a link. As y'all probably know, I got my own stuff going on um but we, we, he, he's not blocked.
Speaker 3:I'm not blocked, he's not blocked. We can call each other, but we just been on some co-parenting stuff right now, and that's another thing I feel like she's naive about, because she can see it firsthand. When I get in a relationship, when I move on, I'm done. I don't talk to my baby daddy. My baby daddy don't even try me like that. If I'm in a relationship, I'm in a relationship. But sierra, my baby daddy takes that relationship as a joke. He don't respect that relationship. Why would I?
Speaker 2:right no, and so you're you're currently in a relationship or you're single.
Speaker 3:Now I am I am figuring it out because I am talking to people okay okay yeah, so dating yeah, yeah okay and um, so another thing that I've seen.
Speaker 1:Well, I know you said that you know y'all met. You met him in the club, y'all started talking, you went away. Do you care to share? Like, so how long did you do in prison? Like how long were you away?
Speaker 3:I was in prison for two and a half years.
Speaker 3:Um the first, like maybe seven months that I was in prison, my baby daddy was locked up as well, so we didn't have much contact other than through other people, um, but once he got out of jail he was there the whole rest of my time with me. He came to visitation on Saturdays, sometimes Saturday and Sunday. He had money on my books, he had money on the phone. Like I was none the wiser.
Speaker 3:I did not find out about Sierra until I came home. I was actually four months pregnant with my son and my baby daddy had a trap phone and when I called Sierra she was like I already know who you are. Oh okay, but I didn't know who she was. I didn't know that that's who my baby daddy was dealing with. And until I went through my baby daddy phone did I find out that Sierra was working on Backpage and he had linked up with her to turn a trick, and it was a bond that they just kept going. She started paying bills. She was allowing him to do whatever he wanted to do as long as he was paying bills, and that's where it started from, wow.
Speaker 2:So he's where it started from Wow, so he's her pimp, or was Okay? Okay Now, um, you said that you guys were you and your baby dad was locked up at the same time. Was it two? Was it separate things?
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was separate situations.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Wow. So you both of you guys started off a relationship with him that clearly nobody planned on it being like serious, or like going any like you know kids, or being like now what? 10?
Speaker 3:so years later no, I mean, even now, me and my baby daddy still talk about the future. He still says that sierra is temporary, that he's just going to get to where he wants to get to in life as far as, like, getting his house and getting his car and getting financially stable. And he's sad to say, like, I guess using Sierra for that or whatever. And I do feel like they have a good partnership. Whatever they got going on, they work for each other. The way that she drives him around, the way that she, you know pretty much like, enables him to not be a grown man. But, um, so he said that the situation is temporary and that when he gets to the point that he wants to reach in life, that he's going to come back to his wife and his kids and he calls me his wife and his kids are the only kids that we share together, are his and yeah.
Speaker 3:So the way that I see it is, I'm just living my best life. I'm working on myself, trying to be the best wife that I can be for the person that I eventually marry. I'm cutting ties with my baby daddy because I'm not accepting him being in a relationship with Sierra but if later on down the line, three, four or five years down the line. He's not with Sierra, I'm not with anybody, and we choose to get back together and get married. That could still happen. Like I don't hate my baby daddy, I don't think my baby daddy hates me. We're just not at the time in our life to be together right now.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that makes a lot of sense. And it does take someone mature enough to reflect and say, okay, let me look at this you know situation in hindsight and figure out, like, what makes the most sense. I think that we have to, in certain situations, just accept what it is. You know what I'm saying and, like you said, one of the key things is, like he's I don't know exactly everybody has different requirements for their person or who they want to be with. But if a man is showing you time and time again that he's not the man that you want to be, that you want to be with, but if a man is showing you time and time again that he's not the man that you want to be, that you want to be with, and you have to decide not to compromise that, and I think that that's so important for young girls and young women to understand like we get so stuck up in.
Speaker 1:Okay, you know he could change, or we can change them, and this isn't that. But a person has got to want to change and they have to want to change for themselves first and foremost. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3:And how Sierra, how she even came back in the pictures. I broke up with my baby daddy, who's struggling with his own addiction. That's his story to tell and we broke up for that reason and she came in and they were together. If I didn't have any problems with my baby daddy, if we had a perfect relationship, we would still be together. And I had to remind myself that and I feel like a lot of young days need to hear this too Like we have to remind ourselves on why we chose to walk away in the first place.
Speaker 3:Cause we start to get lonely and we start to miss them, we start to miss the comfort of the routine that we created with that person, and that's what we're. All we're doing is missing what used to be, and I had to wake up and realize, like this is one. This is not the man that I want to be with. If my baby daddy was to leave sierra and come to my house right now, he cannot meet the expectations that I have for my future husband. You just can't. Little girl me does not want what grown women you want yeah and I met my baby daddy when I was 18.
Speaker 3:So we're just not the same right now, and a lot of feeling like I lost a battle or I lost a struggle by sierra taking him that's a lot of what kept me in a way, longer than I should have, fighting for a relationship that was way, way over, was feeling like I didn't want to lose him. And once I realized, like girl, he's losing me. I'm the prize, I'm the one who works, fighting for the whole dynamic change, and my baby daddy hates it because he ain't got no control and that's good, that's what I love.
Speaker 1:I've seen that. I've seen one of the videos and you were saying that, like you don't run nothing over here, you don't have no control, and I'm like, oh my gosh, I love that.
Speaker 1:Like she's taking her power back and understanding that yes, you ultimately have the control on how you allow someone to treat you or how you allow people to show up in your life. You know what I'm saying. A person is always going to show you who they are. You have to believe them. It's up to you to believe that that's who they are.
Speaker 3:We can, yeah, and you don't have to accept people if they're not what you want them to be. You don't have to be. You don't have to have access to me, like that's. I'm big on that. You don't have to have access to me. I literally charge $25 a phone call for somebody to talk to me for 30 minutes and you think you're gonna stress me out on my phone for free? No, period.
Speaker 1:That's exactly the mindset that how it should be. And I think that the fact that you display that and you show that and you're so vulnerable and you can see you go through from the beginning of just even with, like, your pregnancy, with your, your last son, and then like how vulnerable you were and how like hopeful you were for that situation, and then to like how you kind of like grew and then had your baby and your perspective kind of it's like you kind of gathered that strength to be like no, so do, would you say, like having your son and having your kids in general and, you know, wanting to set an example for them. Will you say that that helped you to make these choices, like look, I'm not doing this anymore, not just because of me and how it's affecting me, but also my kids.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I think a lot of the one of the questions that I often get on TikTok is people asking like, if it was your daughter, what would you tell her? It was your daughter, what advice would you give her? And I'm big on I'm not going to tell you to do something that I wouldn't do. So how could I tell my daughter to leave the man that's treating her like that if I couldn't leave the man that was treating me like that? So I'm big on that and that's why I feel like one of my posts even one of my posts I think it was one of my down days and somebody commented on the post.
Speaker 3:They were like girl get up, girl get up. And it reminded me of that Sarah Jake Roberts seminar. She had a whole seminar speaking about getting up and fighting depression and you're going through things and it just gave me the courage. Like you really have to believe in yourself, you really have to love yourself and get the devil out your head, because the devil will tell you you're not worthy, he'll tell you you're not good enough, he'll tell you to stay. He'll tell you all the negative things and you really just have to pray and focus on your own strength, and that's another thing that really helped me. I'm big on my faith.
Speaker 1:Tiktok doesn't see a lot of that, but I go to church every Sunday, I pray every morning, every night, I pray before I my journey with me and that's, that's, honestly, what gave me the strength to leave my baby daddy, because you know my man, god is my man, you don't do me wrong baby, god don't do me wrong period and that was another admirable thing that I witnessed on your platform was that you know you do show you sometimes getting up and getting ready with your kids to go to church and just you know, seeing you, um with, you know building that relationship with god and becoming involved in the church. That was very inspirational because it's like a lot of times we try all these things, we try talking to friends and we try to find what we're looking for in this man, in this and that situation. But it's like we have to try God sometimes. And I'm telling you he will never let you down.
Speaker 1:He's going to give you the strength. He's going to give you the strength. He's going to give you the knowledge. He's going to give you the love, the comfort, the peace, everything that you're looking for in these worldly things and people. If you try, god, you will find all of those things and some, and you will become more wise, more strong, and you, you like what, like? I had this in me the whole time. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:It's like unlocking a power and feeling like, you know, unstoppable. I mean I just and I love to see when young women, young men, anybody, when anyone is able to unlock that and create that intimate relationship with God, because when you're going through situations like this, this is really the only way out. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:when you're going through situations like this this is really the only way out. You know what I'm saying and so a lot of times when you were going through this stuff, I mean, I don't know if you have a lot of family, if you're super close with your family, if you have, you know, some best friends and stuff like what. Where were they? Were they more so just letting you do your thing? Were they giving you your opinion?
Speaker 3:Were they opinion? Were they telling you there was, um, there was a period of time when I was pregnant that I couldn't afford my rent. As y'all know my journey, I was homeless. During that time when I was homeless, I was not local like I was five hours away from any of my friends. I was in a town that I was born and raised in. The only person I had was my mom. She was a great support system for me throughout my pregnancy.
Speaker 3:But it was hard battling my depression, being alone, homeless. Homeless, like feeling like I didn't have a job, I didn't have a car, I didn't have a house, my social media wasn't even taken off because I was too depressed to post. I was too depressed to do promos, like it was just a really black time for me and I think during that time my friends did what they could. They were a ear for me to listen, like they were a ear for me to talk to. They were a shoulder for me to lean on, for me to lean on, but nobody could be like here, girl, here's a house. Here, girl, here's a car. Nobody's going to grab my phone and make me post content. So friends and family can only do so much for somebody who's not willing to do something for themselves.
Speaker 3:And that's where I was. I was just so stuck in that depression Like I don't feel like there's anything that any of my friends or family could have did different. I literally just had to go through it. But now that I'm back and I am back in the city with my family and friends I have an amazing support system. I don't post every single moment of my life. There's so much that y'all don't see. When it comes to my kids, it's all hands on deck. I have a whole village and I love that for myself because it keeps me from getting overwhelmed. It keeps me from getting stimulated. I have my best friend who's with me almost every day.
Speaker 1:She might as well be a paid personal assistant because, like, it's just so much I don't see behind the scenes with the support system that I have yeah, that's amazing and I'm glad that you hit on the family dynamic because I was going to ask you know, a lot of times when we get older and we get into relationships, whether it's friendships or romantic relationships, we kind of tend to mimic what we learned as a child or just kind of not knowing where to start. So, growing up, were both your parents together. What was the dynamic for you as a child growing up?
Speaker 3:Growing up. My mom did eight years in federal prison. My dad I didn't start really connecting with until I was age of 12. So I was raised family member to family member, never lived anywhere longer than six months. I went into DCF foster care when I was 12 years old. I've been to four juvenile programs ranging from 30 days to 14 months. Like I had a pretty rough, traumatic childhood and I try to take that and raise my kids different. I go so hard for my kids because of how I was raised and I think I fought a little a little harder to keep my family together because I was raised in a separate family home.
Speaker 3:Um, but what I have learned is there's literally somebody out there waiting for me, waiting to love me and my kids, and it's not their biological father.
Speaker 3:And the more that I go through things, the more that I go through things, I can't help but get this feeling inside of me that God is shaping me to be the woman that he needs. Whoever my husband is girl, god is getting me ready for him and that's why I don't waste my time when people show me red flags. People show me they don't want to be in a relationship with me. I got to get y'all out the way because literally I know that my man is out there.
Speaker 1:Yes, and I love that, I absolutely love that that was so well said. Like, at the end of the day, that is really what it is in. This situation is shaping you in more ways than one, and that's why people don't understand. It's like we're not going to understand everybody's journey and every, every aspect of what they're going through. To get you know where they're going, kind of try to gain an understanding or just to you know, pray for that person or uplift that person, opposed to like judging them or trying to talk down on them Because, at the end of the day, this is going to make you a better person and, like I said, I seen past all of the kicks and giggles.
Speaker 1:Like I think I've seen some of your videos and I think that you are a very like you know, happy, giddy person. You have a really great personality, you're funny and I feel like you know this situation is shaping you and I feel like in so many ways you have grown, like I said, even just from your past videos from you know, when you were first pregnant, if you know moving forward, it's like can see, and I feel like a lot of people miss that, it's like they're not, they're missing the gems that you're dropping and they're just there for the entertainment part.
Speaker 3:Like oh, okay what is she?
Speaker 1:what's she talking about? This? You know this time Like, or who she, what she got going on and it's like wait, y'all not, y'all just want to. You know entertainment for the moment, but y'all not understanding that. Y'all witnessing, y'all witnessing a miracle, y'all witnessing somebody who's breaking generational curses, that's going through a transformation and giving glory to god while doing that.
Speaker 3:Yes, and I feel like one thing I want to get a message across from my page is people see the imperfect journey that I'm on. I'm not perfect. I still cuss, I still party, I still drink, but I I go to church every Sunday and I pray and I do get closer to God. And I want somebody out there to know that you don't have to be perfect to be close to God. You don't have to be walking a straight line to be close to God.
Speaker 3:My goal is to make you feel like Jesus is accessible to anyone. He's accessible to the crackhead on the corner, just like he's accessible to the millionaire sitting up in the mansion. Like you don't have to be no type of perfect, you don't have to be no type of special ritual or anything to get on your knees and pray and to have god in your corner. And I'm I'm big on that. A lot of people be like, oh my god, you did this, but you go to church and I do, and I do every sunday. Like I'm big on that. You don't have to live no certain type of way, be no certain type of way. God literally says come as you are and through building a relationship with him, you will change.
Speaker 2:Correct, oh that was well said, that was a word, that was a word.
Speaker 1:Yes, that was a word and that's perfectly saying and my dad is a bishop and he preaches that a lot Like people always say, oh, when I get right, I'm going to come to God.
Speaker 2:I'm going to give my life to God.
Speaker 1:it's like no, there's no get right. There's no, there's no type of you know status you have to have or no type like you can come in the darkest of your darkest times, you can come in the best of your best days. There's no right fit to come to God, to give your life to God and create that relationship. And I love that you said that, because my dad says that all the time and I used to hear people say that as a kid all the time Like I'm going to get right, I'm going to come to God one day. He know my heart, I'm going to get right with God.
Speaker 2:If you wait for that, it'll never happen yeah.
Speaker 1:And, like you, know that we're never going to be perfect exactly exactly. They say what he says it's easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man to make it to heaven. Like you, people think that oh you all, the most blessed people are the ones with the money or the lavish lifestyle. But no, you know what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying they're going to have the hardest time because, at the end of the day, it's what you value and what's important and who you know if you're really working towards your salvation. So I think that is so important and I love that and that's, like I said, really why I wanted to speak with you. I wanted to have you on because I'm like there's more to her than these 30, 60 second clips that she gives.
Speaker 2:You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:And I feel like a lot of people. Like I said, it's entertaining to some people, but it's like this. I see this as, like I say, as you know, a transformation. I see God working and that's what I see.
Speaker 2:You know the entertaining stuff that that comes second.
Speaker 1:But I see I'm watching what the Lord is doing and I love that. It inspires me. I'm like every it's just every time I see someone who's going through a transformation or getting closer to God and I see what he's doing, it's like I'm just thankful. I thank God, Thank you for allowing me to witness this. This is just more reassurance that you are who you said you are yesterday, today and forever, and I think that that's important and people don't see that.
Speaker 2:And I'm just so happy that you're so brave enough to share this story, because there are so many, so many people go through this like. This is not, like I said, your story. It's a few different details, but I know so many people going through this right now and I just think it's so powerful for people to hear you say like, look, it's when I decided enough was enough you know what?
Speaker 3:I mean, and then it sounds like it's been going a lot better for you like yes, every time I get my baby daddy out the way, the blessings just be pouring in, and that ain't fine enough every time I get them in out the way, like the blessings is pouring in, pouring in, pouring in so like has he ever said, because I know, like, like a lot of your videos go viral, you get, you got a big following.
Speaker 1:So does he ever, like say anything about the videos, because I know that he has to have people come down like you're, like they?
Speaker 2:have to be okay.
Speaker 1:So like what is his?
Speaker 3:what is his take on it like well you guys, he wants you to know that he does take a shower because somebody had posted on there talking about he looks like he don't take showers. So I asked him one night. I was like I was on the phone for like two hours. He's like I know you're about to go inside and tell tick tock that you was on phone me. I said and I am. He said do you want me to tell them anything? He's like let them know that I take a shower.
Speaker 3:And they're like okay, um, but other than that, like my baby daddy, to know him, he's a very humble person, he's a very non-confrontational person. So he don't do social media. He sees it and he's just like okay, I don't know none of these people in real life, I'm not giving it no attention. Like he don't pay that stuff, no mind. The one post that he did make on Facebook that I reshared from my page, a whole bunch of my followers went to his Facebook and like tried to, I guess, cancel him. My baby daddy was like okay, whatever, he don't pay that stuff, no mind, we know what happens in real life and that's all that matters. Like I do post a lot and it might seem like one thing, but behind the scenes, y'all, we got this we co-parenting happy, healthy kids.
Speaker 1:I know that's right and that's what matters. You know, the kids are happy. They get to have both of their parents around, whether they're in the same household or not, and, um, they get to see both of y'all show up for them and that's that's important. I think that even in the the messy moments, even when you know you, when y'all were going through your stuff I remember in one of your videos you were like they're with their dad, they're okay, you know, and everybody's like oh, go, get, your kids are. This is that, and you're like they're with their dad. And I think that we have to normalize that more as?
Speaker 1:yeah, as you know, women we're always expected to, just like you said, be the 100 parent, but it's okay if we pull a them on them. It's okay if we, you know, drop the kids off and we need you to keep them an extra week or whatever like, yeah, that's how I had a whole video about yeah like, there's like we need to normalize that type of way about my, my kids being with their dad, which my mom is like you're just gonna leave them over there.
Speaker 3:And I am and everybody on tiktok was giving me grief about that and I, that is big in my family, like my family is not is a lot of women. We have very few men in our family and we're about a single women raising kids and we've normalized our kids, father just leaving and we don't ask them to do nothing, we don't even put them on child support and that's normal in my family and we see it as oh, that's a strong woman, that's strength. No, boo boo, I'm weak Like no. My mom is like, just put him on child support. This man don't even got a job. Did he get paid on the books? I'm not fighting with no government. We don't even need all of that. Get your kids Right.
Speaker 1:No, for sure, For sure, and it's like we just have to hold them accountable. My grandmother I feel like I tell my grandma that all the time, like you're so old-fashioned because my grandma's the same way. She like I don't care if y'all on good terms. My grandma always been like get them on paper, get them on child support, she don't care. She like I don't care if y'all together that he need to be paying child support and my grandma's just like that. You know, my grandma's 90, so she's like but, like you said, it's just that, that dynamic that they've just been used to like as mothers, we we not counting on them for nothing. They can walk out any day.
Speaker 1:But, it's like no, we need to hold them accountable. We've also made that an okay thing, Like, yeah, if y'all walk out, we got this, we got this yeah we got this, but I don't want to have to have this.
Speaker 3:Like I want it to be. I tell my baby all the time I don't got this. You got a two-parent household over there. Even though it's not me, you have a mom and a dad dynamic over there, Because Sierra does have her own two kids that are 10 and 11. So she's been a mom for a long time.
Speaker 2:And y'all got this.
Speaker 3:I don't feel guilty. If y'all need to keep your kids for an extra week, I'm not going to feel no type of way, because it's two of y'all over there and y'all both ain't got no job so she does, so she does have kids as well. You said yeah, she has kids, just not his kids.
Speaker 1:Okay, got you right. So it's like a blended family. So does your kids like they're? How old are they, your kids?
Speaker 3:my kids yeah, that go over. There are five or four, because I don't send the baby over there, so he gets the five and a four year old um, and her kids are like 10 and 11 or nine and ten, something like that but so your kids are old enough to tell you like the dynamic they like to go over there, telling, yeah, they do they like, they do like to go over there.
Speaker 3:Um, they do like her kids. If they play with her kids, they're a little bit older so, like her son was teaching my son how to play call of duty and robo blocks. And Zaya is a daddy's girl at heart. She loves her dad. Her dad can't do no wrong in her eyes. That is daddy's baby. So they do love to go over there and they do love to be around their dad and, aside from like what me and their dad are going through on a personal level, we keep the kids out of it. Like the kids know mommy's house and daddy's house and they know both of them are safe places that they can be at that's good, that's super important.
Speaker 1:Um, because you know, sometimes you can't trust people, especially when they got envy and jealousy and and and against you and you leaving your kids. You know what I'm saying. They, they start to act weird to the kids. So that's good that the kids can go over there and feel safe.
Speaker 3:Sierra has been around the kids jay sean was one and josiah was six months old but she's been around them for for a long time now. She's built her own relationship with my kids. So even like sierra has told me, oh, even if me and your baby daddy not together, I still want to be able to see your kids and I don't have no problem with that. I'm not one of those bitter baby mamas like oh you, my baby daddy, girlfriend, I don't want you with my kids. No, I've never been like that. My kids are old enough to say they call her mama cc and a lot of people like you let them call her mama cc.
Speaker 1:They know that's not their mom right they know that right, it's a name right no, for sure yeah, eva's a lot like that too and I've never had been in that position. But Eva's like that as well. Like you know, her daughter's dad have another daughter that she gets and she comes over and she's just like at home. And I'll be telling my cousin, like oh, I love that for you. Like you know, even her sister, like she can have her sister come over and her mom can drop her off and the dad don't even got to be involved in the plans and you know, baby girl is safe and she felt comfortable.
Speaker 1:I feel like that's important. Like you say, it takes a village and, at the end of the day, if you do love my children, if you did create that bond, there's no reason for that to have to interfere. If the relationship does go South with you and their father like you know what I'm saying we, we're all in this together. If we, with you and their father, like you know what I'm saying we, we're all in this together.
Speaker 3:if we, if you really love the kids, then it shouldn't be a problem like, yeah, and that's how I am, but not with my baby jackaloo yeah I ain't playing the radio with that one and it is really, it's really, it's really just my own decision.
Speaker 3:If jackaloo was to go over there, I think he would be fine, I think he would be in good care. Um, however, just because my baby daddy already said f that baby and sierra has already made one or two comments herself, that just don't sit right with me, um, I just don't send my newborn baby over there and he can only see the newborn baby, like if the baby's at his mom's house or if he comes over to my house or something like that so how old is the newborn baby?
Speaker 1:now two months. Jackaroo is two months old now okay, and that name is so cute. So where did the name jackaroo come from? Did that? Was that inspired by anything like? That's a unique name.
Speaker 3:I don't think I've ever heard of anybody so jackaroo, his name is actually jakeem matthew um. Jakeem is his dad's name, so he was named after his dad. Everybody knows the traumatic experience that I went through. My baby daddy came to the hospital for the delivery but he left at like four o'clock in the morning five o'clock in the morning because sierra was sitting downstairs waiting in the car. Yeah, why is she always in the car? She liked to be in the car. So the next day he came back. He signed the birth certificate. Once again Sierra was waiting in the car. But when I got home and my kids asked me, they were like Mommy, what's our brother's name? I just brought tears to my eyes. I couldn't say his name, I couldn't say Jakeem. It felt like a raw, open cut and so I just started silently crying and I was just looking at my kids and they just said it's okay, mommy, we're just gonna call him jack jack, and I was like okay, so we're just gonna call him jack jack and so that's where the name came from.
Speaker 3:We started calling him jack jack and then I just jackaroo came from jack jack and I started calling him jackaroo. Now everybody that's around him on a daily basis pretty much calls him jackaroo and everybody else calls him jack jack.
Speaker 2:But he is named after his dad and that's how he got the name jackaroo isn't that amazing how your kids, like you know, when you breaking down, like, oh, my kids come and scoop me up so much, like they, asking about the name and everything, and you can barely even get the words out and you're going through your feelings and here they go, smiling and oh, we'll call him this, you know just I just love that about my kids too, like they can they absolutely can.
Speaker 1:They can sense it. For sure, they definitely can sense it and I think that you know that's important for us to keep in mind too when we're going through things. I I know that that is one of the main things that keep me in line when I'm dealing with the other half, like what my kids that or whatever, because I know my kids can sense it and they'll try to like indirectly mention it or like say something, but they're very intertwined like with me emotionally so right yeah that's so cute.
Speaker 3:I like that name, though Jackaroo so cute he's so cute, they done took that name up through that any video I've ever seen, she's always just calling him jackaroo.
Speaker 1:I've never heard the backstory of his name.
Speaker 3:Okay, yeah, but I think it's so cute I've been meaning to make a post about it and how he got the nickname jackaroo, but I just haven't but yeah, that's how you got it and. I kind of like the fact that everybody is, like they're, so bothered about what I'm calling my child.
Speaker 1:What they be saying.
Speaker 3:Oh, that's his name. You put that name on a birth certificate.
Speaker 2:How could?
Speaker 3:you name your baby. That that's not cute. Wait no A lot of people think that that's his real name. Like a lot of people think that's his real name, I'm pretty sure like 80% of the internet thinks Jackie is his real name.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so even said I'm crazy for thinking that was his real name because she knew off rip that it was a nickname. But, like I said, I never, I don't. I didn't know your baby dad's name either, so I just was like, oh, maybe that is his name. You know, like I his name you know like I, people give their kids different names.
Speaker 2:All the time my I have two cousins that just named their baby seven, seven really actually like that.
Speaker 1:Yes, I have a little girl cousin named seven and a little boy cousin named seven.
Speaker 3:They're both like under three months I made a video and I have put on it j a k, apostrophe r o o or ja, apostrophe r-o-o. And then when I did that, oh, they're like, yeah, that's his name, that's what she named him, she spelled it so cute and I'm like, okay, yeah that is so cute.
Speaker 1:So like with with the dynamic. Now, like you said, right now you guys are kind of like on calm terms.
Speaker 2:It's like you, you've drawn the line and like, since you, perfectly, since you brought that up you draw the line and your terms. Now I was wondering do you like, officially like, forgive your baby dad for?
Speaker 1:no, okay hell.
Speaker 3:no. The way that that man treated me while I was pregnant, after I was pregnant, it is nothing, nothing but glory to God that I did not fall into a deep postpartum depression and I feel like he had no regard to that, not a care in the world on the state of mind that I was and I am the backbone for my kids, and he knows that. And I also feel like a lot of the times when I was going through things, I feel like he was trying to tear me down, like he wanted, for I put my baby daddy through a lot of things. That's another story to tell our relationship before sierra, the things that I did to him, and I feel like he never forgave me for that and he spent the block solely to make me feel that pain, to put me through that hurt that I put him through wow and I can say you know, mission accomplished, because, baby, I'm not going back.
Speaker 3:We done, you know, did me, I done. Did you like? Let's just raise these kids at this point and I was just going to ask.
Speaker 1:So that's so crazy. You said that because I was wondering did you think the way that he treated you was out of resentment? Not, I didn't even know about y'all's history, but I was gonna say out of resentment, like do you think he thought you got pregnant on purpose or do you think he thought you were trying to like cause more drama or like break him up with his um?
Speaker 3:girlfriend. Oh no, baby, here's the catch. Here's the real team. Jackaroo was playing I knew it.
Speaker 2:Oh, I knew it. That's how it be, that's how they be.
Speaker 3:That's how they be. Jackaroo was planned. I went and took my birth control out. We started the Monday visits to conceive Jackaroo. Baby Jackaroo was planned. Wow, that's even more just like that you got me.
Speaker 1:You planned this baby with me on purpose, just to get back at me. Oh, he's one of them. I'm scared, jackaroo, was'm scared.
Speaker 3:we had a we had a three, a three-step plan. I'll tell y'all I never put this on social media before. We had a three-step plan one, we was gonna get matching tattoos. Two, we was gonna have a baby. And three, we was gonna get married. The only step that we did not do was we did not get married, and thank god.
Speaker 3:I was second guessing because I didn't want to share my income tax because all we were doing we took the pre-wedding class. In all, we were scheduled to meet at the courthouse on april 20th and we just did not do it. Like it just fell through on our own personal things, not because of sierra, not because of anything like we just didn't do it and I never picked it back up from there because I didn't want the legal bondage that came with being married and I was like you know what, brianna, how far are you going to go to prove the point to this girl? And I had to draw the line there. But yeah, jackaroo was very much planned. He went with me, I got my birth control taken out and then we started the Monday visits.
Speaker 3:And what was not planned is Sierra got into a car accident. Sierra got into a really bad car accident. She ended up being in the hospital in a coma for like a month and a half and baby girl ran into a huge lawsuit. That is what was not planned and, matter of fact, they got into the car accident when she was on her way to bring my baby daddy to me so we could sneak in the house and go have sex. And after that car accident and she was in a coma and even when she was in a coma, my baby daddy was at my house while she was in a coma and she was in a coma and even when she was in a coma, my baby daddy was at my house while she was in a coma. But after that and she found out she was getting that whole lawsuit, that's when things changed.
Speaker 1:For me and my baby daddy but jackaroo is already conceived so she was getting a lawsuit in her favor, like she was getting money oh yeah, um.
Speaker 2:So then he had to play the role to make it seem like jack jack jack wasn't planned and this isn't that, and I really want to be with you and yeah, so that he can get that money, get parts of course wow
Speaker 3:and so everybody, the crazy thing like this I, I, this, I can't make this up. Like everybody knows this. Everybody from the outside looking in sierra's probably the only delusional one that thinks my baby daddy's generally in love with her. But, baby, it's. It's that money that you're doing, it's the things that you're doing for him that I would not do. I don't enable my baby daddy to do what she's enabling him to do. I'm going to make you get up, get a job, get a business. We're going to be successful, but not the way that you're trying to do it. Right, if you. That's what was not planned. The car accident and the lawsuit Jackaroo was planned.
Speaker 1:Wow, so we got that. She's 25 and you're 28. So how old is baby daddy?
Speaker 3:30. My baby daddy is I'm 28. I'm about to be 29. 33. Turning 33 in July.
Speaker 1:Wow, I assumed he was older than that. Yeah, wow, wow. So that's crazy.
Speaker 2:I'm really trying to figure stuff out too. But it ain't okay to just drag people down with you like it ain't okay to and I don't know play these games correct.
Speaker 1:Play with other people's lives yes because, though you may be doing it, you know doing this to her are you trying to promise me this, but that makes me look at you a certain way, because, like why can't you just be an honest man, like nobody deserves to you know, go doing this to her. Or you trying to promise me this, but that makes me look at you a certain way, cause, like why can't you just be an honest man, like nobody deserves to you know, go be taken through that, regardless of the situation, like she clearly really wants to be with you for whatever reason we don't know her backstory but for you to be, like you know, sitting here playing this role and then this beautiful baby story.
Speaker 3:I would love this girl. I would love for her to come out and say her side of the story, because it really don't make sense to me. I mean, my baby daddy has to be treating this girl like an angel or something like yeah, I don't know, because a man paying my bills is just not enough, like there's only so much I'm gonna take and that's just me no for sure I wouldn't deal with none of this.
Speaker 1:I mean when the. Moment you pulled up to my house thinking he was about to pack anything out of my house, we would have all been in jail or somewhere, somewhere, not indeed twice.
Speaker 3:Oh, twice, twice, twice, twice. And I still pull up to her house anytime I want to and my baby daddy gonna come outside and that's our period. But that's she comfortable being in that situation. She's comfortable like she's is giving. Pick me like you want to be chosen, and he's gonna choose you because it's cheaper to keep you.
Speaker 1:He can't do that stuff over here and the thing about it is is there's so many more dogs in the world like you ain't gotta deal with this one. Like there might be another one out there that might do you some type of wrong. But like baby, this is just too much wrong. It ain't got to deal with this one. Like there might be another one out there that might do you some type of wrong, but like baby, this is just too much there's too much wrong.
Speaker 2:It ain't that much love in the world and in the words of Tamar, what's the Braxton?
Speaker 1:What they say. He must have a ding-a-ling-a-go.
Speaker 3:Because, baby, what Like must he must. Because I don't know what, I don't even know, I can't even tell you the way that she moving like she got. She got like I said. She got my baby daddy name four times and I know this because because my mother-in-law said we be gossiping. We be gossiping, but my mother-in-law told me she want my baby daddy to get get her name. He's not doing it. She asked my baby daddy to marry her. Since I got, when I got pregnant again, she wanted my baby daddy to marry her so that she could feel like she has some type of commitment. My baby daddy not doing it like it's. It's the science is there that my baby daddy, whether he's with me or not, he don't plan on being with her for the long call right, that's crazy and, like you said, if he sees your your post.
Speaker 1:She sees your post probably oh yeah, she sees him.
Speaker 3:She sees him because I'll be sending this to her girl. She don't?
Speaker 2:believe anything he's saying like he oh she just yeah, and that's the thing, oh she just mad.
Speaker 1:But some of the stuff that you it can't be lies, because some of the stuff like she said him being over there and like all of that, like that there's like it's not that she don't believe it y'all, because I don't send her pictures.
Speaker 3:I don't send her pictures of her key chain on my dresser. I done sent her pictures. I sent her a video, a sex video, of me and my baby daddy, my baby daddy, eating my police. I sent the video to her. You can't lie, you can't make that up Like. I sent you footage, sis. So at the end of the day I have to feel like you in it for the long haul.
Speaker 1:Like you, just a part of the team at this point and I've accepted her. That's why I just call her sister wife and she just over to taking care of my baby daddy right now, and you know that's what it is.
Speaker 2:Wow, that's crazy. That is crazy. See, what's crazy is thinking about all of the ways, all of the different things that he has to say, to like, fix stuff with sierra. Like, think of the outrageous, like, okay, boom. How does he explain a video in the coochie?
Speaker 3:he told her. He told her that it wasn't my booty.
Speaker 2:He told her he wasn't eating my booty.
Speaker 3:He was eating it from the back and I say, first of all, baby, all you have to do is zoom in and you can clearly see what he's eating. But second of all, does it matter either way what? What was being eaten?
Speaker 1:right, something was being eaten it wasn't chick-fil-a, it wasn't, it wasn't, it wasn't right.
Speaker 3:The game like, like she's literally on my phone saying but he said it wasn't your booty. You even saying that like girl, it's crazy oh my gosh, yes, oh my gosh.
Speaker 1:We gotta pray for her, we have to we have to pray for her because, baby it, there's nothing she needs to be delivered.
Speaker 2:No, for real.
Speaker 3:Yes, she needs to get away from that man, wow and she'll text my phone something along the lines of oh, he just want to be with you because it's quick and it's easy, okay, honey. Well, what are you gonna? Baby number five just want to be with you because it's quick and it's easy, okay, honey. Well, what are you gonna? Baby number five? You want to see baby number five right like what our baby number four?
Speaker 1:I'm sorry I'm skipping the whole job whether it's quick and easy or hot and ready, I don't want no man who is going for that, like I don't care, like yep, and that's like.
Speaker 3:What I had to realize is, like I said, I can't be mad at her and I can't blame her as much as I want to, because my baby daddy is telling her something, just like he told me something. He's telling her something, so I just have to let her. I got my baby daddy for 11 years. It took me 11 years to walk away and, mind you, when I met him, he had a girlfriend. I took him from somebody else. You get him, you lose him. How you get him. So, just how you came over here and you took my baby daddy for me, whether it be two years, three years, ten years from now, baby, karma comes around and it is what it is.
Speaker 1:We need to end this on a more um because this is spicy I am like I did not even know, and that's why I say like it's so much more to the story and people don't understand and they're just like you know, and I can see why they're like, so, like indulged in, and they want to hear more and all they want to you know comment and you know.
Speaker 1:But at the end of the day, like you said, it's just always more to the story. So, while everybody was making it like, oh, you're so delusional, he's with this girl, he's in love with this girl, like you said, he's telling you things. He's showing up, coming to your house, y'all linking up, y'all making plans. He's telling you, okay, once, we, we going to do this, we going to do that, and it's like you know what I'm saying. He told me.
Speaker 3:He told me and I wonder if my baby daddy is going to hear this podcast but he told me for me not to block my blessings. I don't need to block my blessings. I don't need to beef with Sierra because she's going to come across some money. I don't need to block my blessings by beefing with her. I said boy.
Speaker 1:What he's going to have to answer the guy.
Speaker 2:You're talking about blessings.
Speaker 1:You have to answer because the way you out here doing these women and you got a daughter you got a beautiful daughter that's going to grow up one day. It's like what are you doing?
Speaker 2:Whatever she got.
Speaker 1:Whatever's for me is for me. I'm not blocking nothing. I can't block my blessings that the Lord got for me. What I got for me is for me. I don't need you or her.
Speaker 3:That's what he say when I try to cut him off.
Speaker 1:I'm blocking my blessing. Oh, that's his way of trying to keep Okay, don't block me, because that money coming, baby, y'all going to be waiting for that money for a long time.
Speaker 3:That money be coming, but it take a long time. What God has showed me about money? This is what God has showed me about money. God will provide for you Whatever you need. God will provide. If he provides for the birds and the bees, why not you and me? Amen, ain't all money is not good money, and I have had $5.
Speaker 3:I've had $5 and I made it stretch. My kids ate, my bills paid and things like that, and I've had $10,000 drop in my hand and I'm facing an eviction and I can't get shit together. If you don't know how to manage your money, it don't matter how much money you have correct don't. So I don't care about y'all getting a lawsuit. I know that twiddle dee and twiddle dum, y'all still don't know what to do with the money. Y'all still gonna be sitting over there struggling and there's nothing.
Speaker 1:If you're gonna do this gonna make me want to be a part of that situation, right and the more you keep doing and treating people the way you're treating people, it doesn't matter, like you say, how much money you got, you're not going to be blessed. You're going to be blocking your blessings because you're not doing right. You're not doing as a man should do, as a father should do. You're not leading by an example.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you got you in situations for what you can get out of it, and that's not good. You're not. That's not the type of life that you should be leading as a 33 year old man with three kids. That's just not it. And, like you say, you're going to be blessed regardless. So it's like I'm not about to sit around and be disrespected, be humiliated, keep having kids with you that I gotta raise, you know, in my household by myself, even though you're here and you're physically helping. But I still have to do majority. I'm not about to keep doing that. Giving you a key is a blessing in itself yeah, he's one, a little girl.
Speaker 3:You still want to learn for us at all, right, oh I'm. I only want one baby mama. Well, I guess you ain't have no good girl. Damn baby period. No, I'm done having kids. That's one of the main reason why I did. I don't want any more kids. I don't even want to have a chance of having a kid. Yeah, I'm like, are you?
Speaker 2:contemplating, like getting your tooth tied because I think about it nope, because I, literally I only date women.
Speaker 3:Okay, got you. Yeah, so I don't have to worry about getting my teeth, so I don't have to worry about being on birth control, because I'm done with the male species.
Speaker 1:I know that's right. So, like, after going through all of that, and like moving forward in your journey, like what are some things that you see yourself doing? Moving forward, like, now that you've grown, you a platform and you do have an influence, um, and you, you have a good head on your shoulders. You know what I'm saying. You're being led by christ, like what are your, what are your future goals?
Speaker 3:so right now I'm working on a lot of stuff. Um, I feel like everything that I do I pray over because god gave me this platform. I've been doing social media for years and I've never taken off. I've taken off being with god on my side and, um, one of the things that I do on my platform, I do the donation fridays. I raise money for people who don't have a platform and I send the money back to. I send that money to them. That's one thing I do with my platform.
Speaker 3:Another thing that I'm getting into is, um, planning a brunch lunch. Lunch that's going to be networking with women who have their own businesses, other content creators. Just putting all of those women in the same room and letting god work is magic, because sometimes we just got to meet people, y'all just got to get out there. We just got to meet people, we just got to take a chance, and that's what I want to continue to do with my platform. I want to continue to bring god to people who normally wouldn't see god because you over here looking at me being my baby daddy side, where you don't catch the whole word so I want to continue to um, bring God to people who normally wouldn't see God.
Speaker 3:I want to continue to use my platform in whatever way God has to use my platform, whether it be to get people stories out there, whether it be to help somebody build their business, whether it be for me. I am my own brand and I worked hard for that and I just want to continue to build that.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, and I love that for you and I think that, as long as you continue to just be your authentic self and as transparent as you've been, regardless good, bad and indifferent, you know those things will definitely come to fruition. You know, there's so many things that you know people can poke at and judge you for, but there's also things that are, you know, people can poke at and judge you for, but there's also things that are, you know, admirable and inspirational about your story and just your journey and like who you're becoming, um, as a woman in Christ, and things like that as a mother. So, um, I love that for you and we definitely will continue to support you and follow your journey, um, and we want to, we want to. You know, we're going to pray for you, we want to see you do all of those things because, at the end of the day, um, it's just going to be, like I said, uh, an amazing testimony and a miracle that everybody gets to witness that, no matter what you've been through the choices that you've made.
Speaker 1:God can really still make a table for you in front of your enemies and in front of all the people that want to see you lose.
Speaker 2:Oh, yes, and you just going to sit there and be eaten comfortably, and you know what?
Speaker 1:I'm saying, and that's, you know, a powerful thing in itself.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I want to eventually get to the point where I'm doing like speaking things, where I can go places and give my testimony. I'm heavily involved in my church, so I actually go out to prisons and jails and I share my testimony there. Um, we call that journey in the jail, so I've been doing that and like that. That's really what I'm about and I I'm trying to find a way to introduce more of that to tiktok. Um, but yeah, I just for now. They only want to see me shit about my baby daddy, so I just give them what they want.
Speaker 1:I love that and we thank you so much for even just opening up to us and sharing and being, you know, taking the time out to speak with us today, like, we absolutely appreciate that, we understand that. You know you might have a lot going on and you, you know you're a mom, you you got your brand and everything that you're doing, so we appreciate anybody who takes the time out to sit and chat with us, um, and we we appreciate you giving us the opportunity to get to know you outside of that, you know.
Speaker 3:Yes, thank you so much thank you guys for the opportunity absolutely so.
Speaker 1:Until next time guys stay bold.